Why Some People Hesitate in Using Sex Toys

The bliss of the first year of a romantic relationship, or even the first few months after the wedding, couples are still caught up in their fairy tale-like relationship. What they are unaware of is that over time, this feeling of euphoria will fade over time to give way to a more mature, but slightly more boring relationship. This, in addition to the burden of the responsibilities of married couples, eventually led to a feeling of being disconnected from one another. Even with the numerous relationship advice found on self-help books and Internet articles, it would seem that long-term relationships eventually end up this way. Relationships that last are usually ones where both parties have open communications. And of course, put their sex life in high regard.

Sex is one of the exclusive things in a remarkable coupled relationship that might get diluted over time. One way to keep it interesting is to introduce sex toys in lovemaking. Admittedly, there are couples who are hesitant in trying it out for various reasons. Here are common reasons why some couples, or at least one partner has some sort of aversion to sex toys.

1.    Insecurity

Using a sex toy for man or a woman isn't as simple as buying one and immediately introducing it to the partner spontaneously. That's usually a recipe for an argument. Using a sex toy for the very first time in the bedroom must be discussed first especially because of insecurities. Men, in particular, might feel bad about their partners using dildos that are twice the size of their penises. This is normal. And their partners should also see this from the perspective of their men and, if an extra-large dildo isn't at all necessary, just go for one that's close to the size of their men's penis.

2.    Unfamiliarity

It's not surprising that some people are merely holding back on buying sex toys for the fact that it's something new to them. Dealing with this should be done in a sensible manner. Make sure that it isn't suggested strongly and assure the hesitant partner that it's for the sake of the relationship. And, well, to make sex even better than ever.

3.    Cultural upbringing

Let's face it; some cultures have strong stigmas against adult toys. To be more specific, cultures that have strong religious backing. But the truth is that there's nothing wrong with using sex toys in the confines of an exclusive, married relationship. Heck, a man wearing prosthetic arms shouldn't be castigated for rubbing their wife's clitoris. It's the same analogy.

4.    Embarrassment

Perhaps the biggest reason why a lot of people hesitate in using - even buying sex toys is that it's kind of an embarrassing merchandise to buy upfront. Sex is, after all, an intimate and personal thing. The good news is that interested buyers can sneak a peak at simplipleasure.com and other similar sites and place their order while making sure their privacy is protected. No self-respecting Internet merchant of sex toys will want to announce the identities of their customers. They understand this issue perfectly and are willing to provide buyers with the anonymity they need.

Earl Johnson    Contact the author of the petition